But I now know where my dad is; have a cousin and an aunt who are delighted to get to know me; and my cousin has three daughters, one of whom has messaged me and wants to call me Uncle Didactophobe. Some things are looking up.
I have told some of my classes at school. I thought hard about it, because many things in one's private life are not appropriate for speaking to them about. However, with the number of broken homes nowadays, I know that there will be one child, somewhere, thinking "That sounds like my situation. It took Mr Didactophobe 38 years to fill in the whole picture". I hope it will help them.